Forgive Yourself For Your Misadventures
Someone said this to me a while ago, I wish I could remember who, but it’s helped me deal with a lot of adverse circumstances.
A lot of us are going through hard times right now, and I’m sure a lot of people, like me, are feeling helpless. But there is one thing you can do for yourself pretty easily, even when you can’t seem to change your situation:
You’ve got to forgive yourself for your misadventures.
That one piece of advice has helped me a lot. Because even when you can’t change a negative circumstance, it’s all too easy to internalize it: blame yourself, think you somehow deserve it, Identify with it as if it’s a part of you.
This advice has often helped me reframe things so I don’t take them personally, making it easier to carry on. Something really bad happens? It’s not “me“. It’s…